The danger of belief in health and wealth
I wrote a similar article back in 2018, but given the amount of people going through job challenges and health challenges, I felt a re-write was needed. As someone who has been through numerous job changes across various countries, whether by choice or not, through various health challenges, I’d like to share some examples that I feel would encourage you, the reader, to consider the next time someone tells you “you are not good enough”; or that you tell yourself “you are not good enough”. Or perhaps you see numerous “I just started a new job” postings on social media that it seems like you will never get a job.
When life gets tough, we are thrown a lot of curveballs and a lot of information. If I had listened and believed all of that information, I honestly don’t know where I would be in life. You see, I have refused to listen to statistics, numbers, advice, criticism, praise (yes even praise), etc, that is designed to take me away from who or what I am. I’ve refused to take-in information from social media, books, experts, and TV. If we have learned anything over the past few years, it’s that experts often get things wrong, too. As a wellbeing coach, rest-assured I would never tell anyone else to do the same. My job is not to take you away from who you are, but to get you to think about who you think you might be (just FYI). More likely, just observe what people are telling you and how it impacts your own wellbeing - particularly mentally and physically. Here, we have the ability to “firewall” the information thrown at us.
I’d like to share examples of situations that I have come across where people were putting me down, giving me excuses, or what they thought would be the “right” thing to do based on some expert advice or statistics. Judgement aside, I simply and somewhat stubbornly refused to believe any of it, and the outcomes have been astonishing. If you’re out there looking for work, love, or answers to health, I feel these examples might offer some encouragement :).
Example number 1 (work-related):
What they they told me: “No-one is going to hire you at your age in a country where you barely speak the language!”
Result: Hired at the age of 47. Country: Japan. Japanese level: ok.
Example number 2 (work-related):
What they told me: “You are crazy! You’re going to Hawaii without a job, without a visa and a young child????!
Result: Landed a job within 2 weeks; lived there for 6 years. 2nd daughter was born.
Example number 3 (work-related):
What they (recruiter) told me: “They didn’t hire you because you were the wrong nationality"
What I did: Let it go. Dismissed it.
Result: Got the job through an internal recommendation!
Example number 4 (health-related):
What they told us: “After the amount of miscarriages, it’s unlikely you will have a second child”.
Result: 3 miscarriages later, another angel was born!
Example number 5 (health-related):
What they told me: “You need an operation to remove a tumor in your leg”.
What I said: “I don’t think so”.
Result: On the surgery table, the Dr. spent 20 minutes looking for the tumor - couldn’t find it. I healed it just in time!
Example number 6 (financial-related):
What they told me: “You can’t build a house without any savings! No bank is crazy enough to offer you a loan”
Result: Built my dream home in 2017 without any savings.
Example number 7 (personal skills):
What they always told me: “You’re too shy - You won’t make it as a speaker”
Result: Successfully inspired audiences of up to 15,000 people! Spent over 15,000 hours in the training room.
Example number 8 (health-related):
What I was told: When I was 29 years old, my eye doctor said my eye-sight would deteriorate faster than most people’s eye sight and faster than anyone in my family.
What I said, “I don’t think so”.
Result: 30 years later and I still don’t wear eye-correction lenses :)
Example number 9 (personal):
What I was told: When I was 25 years old, I was told that I would be bald by the time I’m 50.
What I said, “I don’t believe that”.
Result: you can check my profile picture!
Example number 10 (health-related):
What they told me 20 years ago almost every year since: “If you don’t get vaccinated every year, you are going to get the flu and it’s “really bad” this year”
What I said, “I don’t think so”
Result: I have had the flu! But only once in 20 years!
Example number 11 (love):
The most important barrier I surpassed was when I had the courage to do something I’d never done before: My heart was pounding but I kissed my girlfriend’s hand in a packed train. She told me no one had ever done that before.
Result: Married. Been together for 20 years. Two kids :)
Example number 12 (health):
What the Doctor told me: After I completely dislocated my elbow and chipped my bone in two places, the Doctor said it would take at least 4 months ‘at my age’ to heal and the chips would never heal.
What I asked: How long would it take a 20 year-old to heal?
What he said: 3 months.
Result: 100% fully healed and functional in 6 weeks AND chipped bones found their way back to position. It’s hard to forget the Doctor’s face whilst he was analyzing the x-rays, over and over.
I have no “method” to teach here - I simply did not accept what was being said as a “norm” against other people. That psychologically sets me up for something that doesn’t necessarily need to be. Too limited!
There are many other examples but maybe for another time. I appreciate those who did give advice - they are all doing what they know how to do. Most important thing is not to let anyone take you away from you. You need your high frequency energy to focus on doing what you need to do, whether it is getting healthy, a job, parenting, etc. The moment you believe anything you “think” is negative, your energy will be impacted and you are designed to tell every cell in your body to respond to it. Nobody can put you on a downer unless you accept you want to go there - only you have the power to dive, or thrive.
So for your own wellbeing, your own health, your own happiness and that of the world around you, be well!
Love and light,
Gab